People Deserve Respect

To the Editor:

Today I had the distinct privilege of attending Diversity Day at Newtown High School. When my daughter first came home and mentioned this event, my reaction was, “This is the most white bread community ever, where’s the diversity?”

Yes, we live in a community that is 95 percent white, with household incomes well above the national average, but we are diverse. Our children are brave. Today I listened as seven high school students had the immense courage to share their personal experiences. I was amazed, I was in awe, I was ashamed. I heard of one young woman who has spent five years at the high school, not because she is incapable of learning, but because holding down three jobs last year prevented her from devoting enough time to her studies. This wasn’t an option – this wasn’t for her car stereo, new skis, or a trip to Europe – this was for food and shelter.

Topics ranged from religion, race, sexual perception and orientation, learning disabilities, economic status, and physical appearance. There was no self-pity. There was, however, a sincere effort to share that conscious and off-hand comments can and do hurt others.

A film was created and shown. The point was made; intolerance begins at home. I can attest that my stereotypes were developed early, and however well-meaning, I learned them from my parents. It was clear to me, as a parent, that parents as well as kids needed to hear this message. At the end of the presentations, there was an open forum. I can tell you that it was very powerful. The stories and feelings these people shared were intense – anorexia, depression, self-mutilation, and rape. These weren’t the kids I’d like to wrap up and package as the screw ups – these were the kids that are our own.

For me it was a reminder, a wake-up call. Respect for diversity is a must. My intention is not to chastise anyone or preach, but to remind you. Our kids are aware, for the most part they are accepting, open-hearted human beings, some of them are really hurting. In some ways we have contributed to this. I never occurred to me that saying, “That’s so gay” could be hurtful. I’m aware now that it’s an inappropriate response. Awareness is everything. The high school needs to be commended, the students especially need to be commended and we all need to be reminded. People are diverse and people deserve respect.

With deep respect and gratitude to the students of Newtown High School for their hard work and excellent messages.

Cori McNerney

22 Great Ring Road, Sandy Hook     October 29, 2001