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Published: Aug 11, 1999 12:00 am

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BRIDES (special section) Who Traditionally Foots The Bill

Often the groom and his family will offer to share some of the expenses of the

wedding which have been traditionally carried by the bride's family. The

question should not be raised by the bride's family, however; the groom's

family must volunteer to share expenses.

Today, many brides and grooms are picking up the cost of the wedding

themselves. What follows is the traditional breakdown of costs:

BRIDE'S FAMILY

Engraved invitations and announcements

The bridal outfit

Bridal photographs

Bridal consultant

The bride's trousseau

Cost of the bride's premarital blood test for license

The bride's "maiden dinner"

Cost of the reception

Flowers for the church and the reception

Gratuities for off-duty policemen or others asked to direct traffic

Corsages for the bride's mother and grandmothers

Flowers for the bride and her attendants, her father's bouttoniere

Bridesmaids' party

Gifts for the bride's attendants

The groom's wedding ring

Music at the church and reception

Sexton and organist fee, choir fee

Carpets, ribbons, awnings, tents

Fee for the church rental

A limousine for the bride and other cars for transportation

A wedding gift or a honeymoon trip

Hotel bills for out-of-town attendants if they cannot be accommodated by the

bride's family, friends or relatives

Transportation for the bridal party from ceremony to reception

GROOM'S EXPENSES

The wedding ring

The marriage license and cost of groom's premarital blood test

The bride's flowers (the bridal bouquet if she wears a bridal gown, or a

corsage), and the going-away corsage

His own, the ushers' boutonnieres and that of his father

Corsage for his mother and grandmothes

Gifts for the ushers

A wedding gift for the bride

His bachelor dinner

The entire cost of the wedding trip (unless this is a gift from the parents)

His own wedding and wedding trip clothes

The home into which the new couple will move and major furnishings

Hotel bills for his best man and ushers if they cannot be accommodated by his

friends, family or relatives

--Source: Amy Vanderbilt

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Well that is some spin. The Democrats have a super majority on the LC and passed the Education Budget without serious consideration of if the voters could afford the multi million dollar increase. "Was the request justified?" rather than "is this needed?" and "can the voters shoulder yet another large increase?" The voters rightly sent it back. Then for some reason all the discussion around reductions to the increase seemed to be coming from the classroom, rather than administration and overhead costs. Is this a coercive tactic to manipulate parents into supporting the budget like tacit threat of cutting freshman sports was two years ago? Who believes the Democrats did not caucus privately before the meeting and came in with a number already worked out? This is the Dems budget, they own it.

Education Cuts: Who Voted For What

I think it is important that we do not villainize every black box seen around a home, business, farm, or municipal property. A black exterior station does not always mean rat poison is being used. These stations can hold a number of different products, including monitoring blocks, snap traps, non-toxic bait, anti-tick bait stations, organic salt- or cornmeal-based control products, and newer fertility-control approaches intended to reduce rodent populations without traditional poisons. The better conversation, in my opinion, is not simply “black boxes are bad,” but rather: what is inside them, who is maintaining them, and whether the rodent issue is being managed responsibly. Exclusion, sanitation, trapping, habitat reduction, and careful monitoring should all be part of a responsible IPM strategy. To be fair, on my own property I do use rodenticides, including Bromethalin and Bromadiolone, in secured bait stations. But that is a choice I make for my property, based on my circumstances and the risk I am trying to manage. I also believe property owners should understand the tradeoffs and be encouraged to use the least harmful effective method whenever possible. I support protecting Newtown’s wildlife. I also support giving residents accurate information and not assuming that every black box represents reckless or unsafe pest control. The goal should be responsible rodent management, not fear of the box itself.

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Debora, thank you! I accidentally doubled the project prices by adding the bond to the appropriation. Thank you so much for catching that and pointing it out. With the corrected numbers, the voters approved a combined $1.32 million for a salt shed ($600k) and library pavement ($720k), while rejecting the $1.12 million replacement turf. Regarding the 80s, I truly respect the hurdle of 14% mortgage rates. My point is simply that the math has shifted: in 1980, while the rates were higher, the price of a home relative to earnings was significantly lower. We are facing a different, but equally crushing, financial wall. Ultimately, it is disheartening that voters who recognized safe sidewalks and parking lots as essential, dismissed a playing field in the exact same condition. The turf has passed its life cycle and is just as much of a liability as the library’s pavement, the only difference is that this safety concern affects thousands of children who, coincidentally, cannot vote. These are apples-to-apples needs. I was hopeful our community would agree that all Newtown residents deserve safe conditions, regardless of which facility they utilize. Again, I would be remiss not to mention that when 82% of residents don’t show up, we have to deal with the interests of those who did. Hopefully, the next referendum will have a bigger turnout.

The ‘Me’ Generation

Thanks for the reply. I meant the numbers you presented in your letter. I found one place where other numbers were listed: https://www.newtownbee.com/04232026/get-out-and-vote-on-the-2026-27-proposed-municipal-and-school-budgets/?q=\\\%22advisory%20questions\\\%22. In that article, the numbers were cited as: Treadwell field: $1,125,000 Library: $720,000 Salt Storage: $600,000 As one who started out in the early 80's when inflation was double digits, my 1985 mortgage rate was 14%, and child care costs were comparable (in present value), I shared your grief but never considered the voters ironic or shameful. PS. I agree college tuition is ridiculous. Thankfully, universities are offering (or considering) waiving all or most tuition for middle class families (upwards of $200,000 incomes). Hopefully, they'll also reconsider their need for those funds in the first place.

Sure! Child care costs: https://www.ffyf.org/2022/10/13/data-child-care-prices-continue-to-rise-ahead-of-midterm-elections-outpacing-inflation/ (also from 2021-2025 we had 2 children in a local daycare in Newtown and it cost us $3200 a month, so that's a number I am very familiar with) Home price / median price vs income source: https://www.jchs.harvard.edu/home-price-income-ratios Tuition increase vs inflation: https://feed.georgetown.edu/access-affordability/noting-a-decline-in-middle-class-students-colleges-provide-more-aid/ Hope this helps :)

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